There is a difference between networking and building relationships. I’m sure they each have their place.
I’m not sure where this came from, but it was a note I made a while back and thought I would share it here:
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NETWORKING
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RELATIONAL BUILDING
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Is about meeting people
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Is about investing in people
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Is a task
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Is a commitment
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Is about talking
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Is about listening
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Is about taking
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Is about learning
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Is for the future
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Is for the present
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Is more about getting
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Is more about giving
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I’m not against the word or concept of networking, but I do like the ideas of focusing on relationships. We can connect with people. We can invest in people. We can personalize our relationships with people.
This slight tweak in focus is not only valuable to ministry leaders to but also to every aspect of the marketplace! A small adjustment in how you approach your interactions could unlock many new doors and could be a joyful journey of connections!
Tell me what you think – do you agree with the differences in these lists?
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