Courtesy Costs Nothing, But Can Change Everything

Extending a pleasant word costs us nothing, so why not give it away freely? Kindness makes a world of difference when you are dealing with people. Even those people who are hard to deal with can be softened through common courtesy.

Speaking and living with courtesy is a simple skill that can be learned. It’s a habit that can be formed.

The founder of Chick Fil A instilled the phrase “my pleasure” into each employee. It’s become part of the DNA that you still hear to this day. Adding a small, natural courtesy to work has helped created a CFA firestorm across the Southeast and Midwest.

What is the definition of courtesy? The showing of politeness in one’s attitude and behavior toward others.

Though everyone should be courteous, ministry leaders and Christians should lead the way! It’s a witness to a love of God and people when we treat everyone with respect and kindness.  And on the flip-side, it can damage our witness all too quickly when we do not extend common courtesy.

Use courtesy in your dealing with people. It’s free, it’s a simple way to connect, it’s respectable, and it only helps both parties! Even when you need to be tough on an issue or situation, you can be courteous.


“But love your enemies, and do good, and lend, expecting nothing in return; and your reward will be great, and you will be sons of the Most High; for He Himself is kind to ungrateful and evil men. Luke 6:35

See that no one repays another with evil for evil, but always seek after that which is good for one another and for all people. 1 Thes. 5:15

“You shall stand up before the gray head and honor the face of an old man, and you shall fear your God: I am the Lord. Lev. 19:32

Let no corrupting talk come out of your mouths, but only such as is good for building up, as fits the occasion, that it may give grace to those who hear. Eph. 4:29

And as you wish that others would do to you, do so to them. Luke 6:31

Love one another with brotherly affection. Outdo one another in showing honor. Rom. 12:10


Show respect for others.

Always apologize when you do something wrong.

When someone is having a conversation, do not interrupt.

When you change your plans, let others know.

Respect the needs of others in public.

Never embarrass another person.

When refusing an invitation, be kind and honest.

Respect your elders.

Use good table manners.

Respect other people’s property.

(Credit for this list of ten common courtesies:

Courtesy is free.  It costs nothing, builds relationships, opens doors and connections, and helps both the giver and receiver.  It’s a win-win and should be incorporated into your lives every day.  Teach the wee ones in your life the benefits and uses of common courtesy. Decide to be extra courteous today!

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